Kids. Wanted at first, and afterwards?

We have the tendency in this busy world to be busy all the time and lose focus of what is really important. We grow up with the illusion that the older we get, the better life will be. But sometimes it’s like we will never reach that point. We all dream about finishing school, getting a job, a wife or a husband and then that precious thing every couple dream about, those beautiful kids. Some need to do so much to reach that point. All types of expensive and painful processes to finally become that parent. And then what? After a few years they become a burden? They cost too much? That’s when thing can go wrong, really wrong. Our kids needs us, what does that mean? What does that really mean? We give them a lot of material stuff. We get extra degrees, more jobs so that we can be provided with the best of the best. But what about the quality time and attention? Do you really know your kids? Do they come to you when things go wrong? Do they ask you for advice? Can you read and feel your kids? What do you know about their development? As a busy and single mom myself I experienced a lot. It was not easy. The one thing I always made sure is to know what is going on with them. I tried to pick them up form school as often as possible. That was the time I could check in with them. Asking about how their day was but not only about school stuff. That was for me the best time to connect with them. If I felt they really needed me I made sure I was there no matter what. I see a lot happening around me, I worked at the public prosecutor’s office and I saw kids, that could be my own in deep trouble. And most of the time the lack of love and attention is what brought them there. I was tired to sit there and watch it happen. The perception of society that these only happens to the kids in the lower social class. I can tell you that it’s not the truth. They get equally in trouble and the source is always the same: Lack of attention, commitment and love. What can we do? Be a family. It doesn’t matter if how the family is build. It is about the commitment of those in one household to each other. Not only on holidays, birthdays or on Facebook. There is a lot we can do to create that harmonious, safe and peace full environment. Then for sure peace and happiness will follow. If you don’t know where to start? We at I-MES can give you some tools. For more information go to my website….